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Post by snoochyboochies on Sept 24, 2005 20:44:59 GMT -5
  Just before I left the house to take a movie back,my dad said "We're thinking about going to Hometown Buffet. Do you want to go with us?" I said "No." and left. I did want to go,but I had to take the Jack Perez video The Big Empty,I wanted to buy a 2 liter bottle of Diet Vanilla Pepsi and bought milk. I tried to get home on time,but didn't make it. Now I'm home while my parents are eating out and can't bring food back for me. That's not what bothers me. Why did I just say "No." rudely like that? I could have just taken the movie back,bought the Diet Pepsi Vanilla and than walked home.If I did,I'd be at The Hometown Buffet eating with and talking to them now. Maybe I should have only taken The Big Empty back. I really feel bad about what I said. What should have I told my parents?
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Post by ladygreenleaf on Sept 25, 2005 2:10:01 GMT -5
I don't say rude things to my parents because if I did when I was a kid, I got spanked. In fact, I wasn't allowed to say just no or just yes. It had to be "Yes sir" "yes ma'am" "no sir" or "no ma'am." I can't tell you how many times I got spanked for violating that one. Now I'm 22, and I still address my parents as sir and ma'am.
Of course, I think that degree of control over how your children address you is pretty much ridiculous. It's true you could've probably given a better answer than just "no," especially if you actually wanted to go. Somehow I doubt your parents are mind readers. In the future, you should tell them you would like to go, but only if they can wait for you to complete your errands. Then they know that they will get to have dinner with you if they wait, which I'm sure is something they would have enjoyed. Also, remember that every time they offer you something like that, and you give them a rude answer, you're establishing a punishment contingency. That means that the future rate of their asking you to dinner is likely to decrease if you keep giving rude answers in response to them. Think about it; if you kept asking a friend to go to lunch with you and they rudely responded "no" and walked away, would you ask very many times? The opposite is also true. If you respond to their questions with nice answers, then they are more likely to ask you those types of questions again in the future.
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Post by hell0sunshine on Sept 25, 2005 2:20:59 GMT -5
yeah just saying 'no' and walking out is kinda rude.
but if it's bothering you then you can ask them how their dinner was tomorrow and explain how you wanted to go but just had too many errands to do. its not that big a deal.
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Post by ladygreenleaf on Sept 25, 2005 2:42:55 GMT -5
yeah just saying 'no' and walking out is kinda rude. but if it's bothering you then you can ask them how their dinner was tomorrow and explain how you wanted to go but just had too many errands to do. its not that big a deal. I agree. It would be a good idea to let them know you didn't communicate what you meant very well. |
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Post by snoochyboochies on Sept 25, 2005 3:48:17 GMT -5
I'll do it soon and thanks for giving me the advice. I appreciate it.   |
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Just before I left the house to take a movie back,my dad said "We're thinking about going to Hometown Buffet. Do you want to go with us?" I said "No." and left. I did want to go,but I had to take the Jack Perez video The Big Empty,I wanted to buy a 2 liter bottle of Diet Vanilla Pepsi and bought milk. I tried to get home on time,but didn't make it. Now I'm home while my parents are eating out and can't bring food back for me. That's not what bothers me. Why did I just say "No." rudely like that? I could have just taken the movie back,bought the Diet Pepsi Vanilla and than walked home.If I did,I'd be at The Hometown Buffet eating with and talking to them now. Maybe I should have only taken The Big Empty back. I really feel bad about what I said. What should have I told my parents?
