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Post by revengent on Sept 13, 2005 16:30:56 GMT -5
okay, there was this boy i liked so i got my friend to go over and tell him i liked him. the thing you got to know about him is that he is super shy. well, after my friend talked to him (at lunch) i saw him and he didnt say anything to me. he didnt have a g/f. it woulnt bother me if he didnt like me, but he is saying nothing to me. i dont know if he is mad at me or embarressed or confused or what. i am confused and somewhat hurt that he is not talking to me. any ideas what to do? thanks ~revengent  |
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Post by blue-eyed struck on Sept 13, 2005 16:37:04 GMT -5
 Don't worry, as you said, he seems to be EXTREMELY EXTREMELY shy! He's probably flattered and embarressed! Give it some time, I'd say 2-3 days! If he still hasn't talked to you, go over and say something like: "I didn't mean to put you on the spot or anything when I had my friend come over. I just wanted to be really good friends with you!" Then, see what he says, if he likes you as well, he'll say, yes, let's be good friends, and from that, just take it slow and it will progress naturally, TRUST ME!! If not, well, then, he's not worth it, cuz you did all the work and he's too stupid to not respond! Hope this helped and let me know what happens! |
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Post by jill on Sept 13, 2005 16:37:12 GMT -5
Well, what was your relationship with him before your friend told him about your crush?
Close friends, aquaintences...never talked to him? I hate it when I get crushes on random guys, it's the worst but hey, it happens.
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Post by blue on Sept 13, 2005 16:37:42 GMT -5
Hm I kinda went through that once. My guy was shy, and after he found out, like all communication stopped. BUT that's just cause I didn't do anything to.. I dunno, keep things rolling. Your guy is probably just processing the thought, maybe embarassed, but probably just still working it over in his head. approach him + try talking to him yourself, and you could probably figure it out by his attitude while you're talking.
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Post by Murchadh on Sept 13, 2005 17:35:17 GMT -5
It is sometimes hard with guys, I've heard about the things people have already said, but what if he is to shy to talk even after she talks to him herself (if she does that is....this is all what ifs) I don't know, i try to look at every side....but then maybe its analyzing it to much. Just try a calm conversation about like music or movies, or books or something....its a common thing to talk about with both people you know and those you are just getting to know. I warn you I've never had a boyfriend so this might be sillyness on my part but thats what I'd do, if I had the guts to do it
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Post by Kaylee on Sept 13, 2005 17:44:30 GMT -5
he's probably confused and unsure.
people have a hard time taking somone asking them out seriously especially if theyre shy cuz they don't actually beleive someone would ask THEM out.
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Post by rayne6981 on Sept 13, 2005 20:13:46 GMT -5
i think that I'm shy and when I had crushes in HS, I would try to find out everything and anyting about the guy (still do, example Cillian...) but yeah, I didn't even know that I had 5 guys (good friends at that) that had crushes on me!
ONe of them told me how he felt (and I felt the same way about him) and we're getting married soon!
but yeah, if its meant to be it'll work out..if not, albeit there's other hotties in school.,, theirs always hotties in school!
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Post by hel on Sept 13, 2005 20:22:20 GMT -5
ONe of them told me how he felt (and I felt the same way about him) and we're getting married soon! hahah thats so sweet! |
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Post by blue-eyed struck on Sept 13, 2005 21:36:54 GMT -5
awwww! I guess you have something in common with CM after all!
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Post by oxobleachoxo on Sept 13, 2005 22:13:47 GMT -5
Sounds like he's shy and it sounds like you're shy. Give him a bit to come around. If he isn't interested it isn't the end of the world---even though high school always seems to be that way.
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Post by aurora10 on Sept 14, 2005 17:42:22 GMT -5
If talking to him seems too fast for you, always go with making eye contact and/or smiling. See what he does then. Jill, you're right...liking random guys is the worst! lol Keep us updated, k? |
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Post by rayne6981 on Sept 14, 2005 18:39:21 GMT -5
I guess we do.... But yeah, I'm soo happy now, can't imagine my life w/o my fiancee! here's a pic of both of us from 2 yrs ago (we both look the same too!!)  |
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Post by ontheedge on Sept 14, 2005 19:51:55 GMT -5
I'm sure he's very confused and un sure. And being as shy as you say he is, he's probably afraid to talk to you. I think you should approach him.
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Post by revengent on Sept 17, 2005 14:10:59 GMT -5
thanks for all you r help. i gave him a few days, he still didnt say anything so i went over went over ( when he was alone) and i said that if he was uncomfortable its okay and we could just be friends.
and now he talk sto me again at first it was kind of akward but it is gettig better.
thanks for all your support.
~revengent
p.s.rayne6981 that is soo sweet!
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Post by ladygreenleaf on Sept 17, 2005 19:02:54 GMT -5
I'm glad to hear things got better. |
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Don't worry, as you said, he seems to be EXTREMELY EXTREMELY shy! He's probably flattered and embarressed! Give it some time, I'd say 2-3 days! If he still hasn't talked to you, go over and say something like: "I didn't mean to put you on the spot or anything when I had my friend come over. I just wanted to be really good friends with you!" Then, see what he says, if he likes you as well, he'll say, yes, let's be good friends, and from that, just take it slow and it will progress naturally, TRUST ME!! If not, well, then, he's not worth it, cuz you did all the work and he's too stupid to not respond!
